Dating for america american
In the early days of dating, many century America was all social capital, decorum, and familial oversight.
Dating did not yet exist in the modern sense; society instead favored a courtship model which almost entirely consisted of one long, parentally-controlled audition for marriage.
This new romantic character of courtship plainly took form in the forsaking of traditional highly formalized love letters in favor of letters with a more endearing and poetic tone.
This, combined with the increasing availability of birth control, led to a relaxation in attitudes toward premarital sex.
This consisted of men and women attempting to construct the appearance of desirability, a feat which was accomplished by different means based on gender: Males’ reputations depended on their ability to create an impression of wealth, while the reputation of females was based on the ability to secure the interest of popular men.
A woman had to secure a large number of dates with attractive men; if she was unable to, or if she chose to exclusively date one man, her soci al “ratings” would suffer.
The committed, monogamous label of “going steady” emerged as the ideal relationship, and dating returned to its traditional role as a marital trial.
Despite increased emphasis on a single relationship, “going steady” was still a very social label.